Happiness is a journey, not a destination

I know a few people who would shake their heads at this, and they are probably the people who could use some perspective…

Ever since I found this postcard in the gift shop at the New York Library a couple of years ago, it has been hanging on my wall to remind me. Because it’s so easy to loose track of things, to fall into a thought pattern that is far from productive. Too many people wait their lives away, leaving no time to enjoy where they’re at. Then realizing, when they get there (wherever “there” is): Now what??

I refuse to be a NowWhat-person. Now What is almost as bad as What If.

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Audrey
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Life happens.

I was thinking about those people again today, those people I used to know but who flew out of my life as quickly as they flew in. Once upon a time, I used to think I was able to keep in touch with everyone. I had so many friends, close friends, and I was convinced they were all there to stay. But then something happened. Life happened. And all of a sudden, some of the people I once told my deepest secrets to, who once knew me as well as I knew myself, have no idea who I am. And vice versa. It’s weird, to think that some of those precious memories I have with certain people, might not be as precious to them. Maybe I’m even the only one who remembers some of these things.

That’s just life though, I guess. Lovers become friends, or enemies, close friends become strangers, or acquaintances that you only have sporadic contact with. Relationships change. Sometimes to the better, sometimes… Well.

I miss some of these people. I really do. But the naive 15 year-old that managed to keep in touch with everyone isn’t in charge anymore. She lost her innocence, and life took over.

Shit happens.

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xxx,

Audrey

Concert Etiquette; Don’t Be A Dick.

Inspired by a certain pain in the ass “lady” at the amazing concert I went to on Friday (and many other pains in the ass at many other past concerts), I decided to dedicate my next post to discuss the mysterious phenomenon Concert Etiquette – Consetiquette for short. Now, there is really only one rule you need to follow as a member of a concert audience, and it’s a very simple one;

Don’t Be A Dick.

But some people (a lot of people actually) need a little more clarity than that, so I’m gonna break it down for you – the rules of Concetiquette. The 8 sub-rules if you like, of Don’t Be A Dick. You’re welcome.

  1. If chatting to your mates is more important to you than listening to the music, stay at home. Go to a bar. Make a phone call. Chat away, just do it somewhere else and don’t ruin everybody else’s night.
  2. Your shushing is louder than the people you are shushing. Shhhut the fuck up.
  3. Whistle with care. If you have the fascinating ability to whistle loudly (you know, the fingers-in-your-mouth type of whistling), by all means, use that ability. But not right in my ear please.
  4. Don’t yell out random and unreasonable requests for the artists. They have a set list and an order for a reason, and they will probably not change their instrument and take up singing right there on the spot, just because you find it boring to listen to instrumental guitar music.
  5. Leave the front to the people who are actually there for the concert and not the booze. If you insist on drinking alcohol, do us all a favor and stay in the back where you will have a short way to the bar (and the toilets). That way you won’t have to push your way back and forth through a large crowd of people with 5 glasses of beer every half hour, leaving a trail of beer stanched (and increasingly unhappy) people behind you.
  6. Your drink belongs in your glass. Not my hair. Thank you.
  7. Keep your arms and legs to yourself. If you are incredibly drunk, or just struggle with body control in general – don’t dance. Or at least make sure you have a large area to yourself so you won’t knock someone unconscious with your flopping arms and legs.
  8. Stay off the stage! Do not, under any circumstances, stumble your drunk self on to the stage before the concert and molest the musicians’ equipment to tell a joke. This is expensive equipment. The mics on an empty stage will not be turned on. And even if they were, people are not there to hear you tell a joke, and you will only piss them off. And then, security will come and take you down. And they will not be impressed either.

I’m sure there are many more rules that should be on this list, so please feel free to add your own in the comments and I will edit them in (and give you credit of course). I know I’m not the only one who has ever been slightly annoyed by loud, drunk, obnoxious, inconsiderate, selfish and disrespectful people at concerts. Seriously, some people shouldn’t even be allowed out in public. To me, it’s just a matter of realizing that this is someone’s job, life, baby. Showing a little respect to all the work that has been put into the big production that a concert actually is, is not too much to ask. Also, a lot of people (yourself included) have paid money to enjoy a nice evening of live music, and making people’s evening less enjoyable by acting like a complete asshole is just an incredibly dickish thing to do. So please, the next time you go to a concert,  try to remember the rule of Consetiquette: Don’t Be A Dick. And if you have trouble remembering how not to be a dick, feel free to print out these sub-rules and use them as guide lines. THANK YOU!!

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xxx,

Audrey

“Life should be a journey, not a race.”

Oh so true… So many people (myself included, at times) are too busy making plans to see that life is racing by before their eyes without them even noticing. Constantly looking ahead, waiting for something to happen – rushing for the day when they will finally get that degree/job/house/ spouse/baby. At the risk of sounding like a walking cliché here; Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.
I stole that from somewhere. 

I do realize this point has been made again and again, but I also know that no matter how many times you hear it, you always need to be reminded one more time. 

So let me be the one to give you the kind reminder of the day – to live your life, instead of planning it to pieces. To enjoy today today, instead of reminiscing over the pictures next week. Or next year. To be there for the people who are there for you. To make a phone call to someone you haven’t talked to in a while. To taste your food and listen to new music. To go for a walk. And while you’re out there, smile at strangers, look at bugs, and take the time to smell a flower. Actually, smell a flower or two every day if you can. House plants don’t count.

When was the last time you stopped to smell a flower...?

 

A world of music at my feet!

Today I finally did something I have wanted (and planned) to do for aaaaages. I upgraded my Spotify account to Spotify Unlimited! Woop woop! No more adverts, and no more “You have spent all your minutes this month.” Gotta love it. Don’t ya…? I’m currently listening to Beyoncé’s new album “4”, and I’m actually quite pleasantly surprised – at least after the first couple of listens. I used to be a massive Beyoncé fan, but I must say she has annoyed me a bit lately… I do like this album way more than the last one though. So far anyway. And it’s nice to have the opportunity to listen to it before I decide wether or not to buy it. Isn’t that what Spotify is here for?

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Behold, a revolution…!
Spotify and all the other online music streaming services (like Wimp, Pandora etc.) is the best thing to happen to the music industry in a long time. It’s not exactly big news that the music industry has been struggling for a while, mostly due to so many people downloading music from the internet and not paying for it. Album sales are down by a crazy %, and times are tough. You’re probably sick of hearing about it, but bear with me for just a minute. Maybe you don’t know WHY it is such a problem. Anyhow, this new online streaming business seems to be (a part of) the remedy. Long overdue, the music industry has realized that it needs to change drastically, and get the consumers back on its side. Meet them half way and give them a better alternative, rather than criminalizing them for (understandably) taking advantage of what’s suddenly available through a massive development in technology. And it’s looking up. As an example, in January 2009, there were 1500 paying customers to the different streaming services available in Norway. Today, that number is up to 240 000 (April 2011), and artists are finally starting to make money from people streaming their music online.

Once upon a time…
I used to download lots of music from Napster and Limewire back in the day, but I haven’t for years now. I guess I think differently now that I know how things work, and how much money artists are actually loosing because of “illegal downloads.” Plus, there are so many easy and cheap alternatives now. I’ve used the free version of Spotify since it first came to Norway in 2008, and I started buying some music online (on iTunes) once that got easy to do. Still, I’ve always liked having a physical copy of the albums I really like. There’s just something about flicking through that leaflet while listening through an album for the first time… Now, I’m proud to say that all the music in my iTunes library is either imported CDs from my own collection, or music downloaded and paid for on iTunes. Or free downloads that the artists have put out there themselves. Cause a lot of them do that to, which is cool. It’s only fair to give something back to the people who support you, and who, to be honest, you are writing the music for. I’m planning to do a lot of that myself, putting a song out there now and then for people to download for free, but I hope people will still want to buy my EPs and albums! ;)

Try before you buy…
Now that Spotify has arrived, I really can’t see a valid argument for downloading music “illegally.” If you are at all passionate about music, I’m sure you can manage to cough up 5 pounds per month in exchange of having access to most of the music in the world at any time. Because with Spotify Unlimited there is no time limit, and if you upgrade to Spotify Premium (for ten quid a month), you can even get access offline, and on your phone. So why not use Spotify to “try before you buy,” and then pay the little money it costs on iTunes or in the record store to get the music you end up loving? If you “have to” have it on your hard drive that is? Seriously – if you like and respect an artist, shouldn’t you want to support that artist? And if you don’t like the music enough to pay for it, is there any point in it taking up space on your hard drive when you can just listen to it on Spotify whenever you want? Another thing is, when you download songs on the Internet, more often than not the quality is SHIT. You may not think it makes much of a difference, but my… It does. The files are shrunk down a crazy amount, and they loose a lot of details in the process. It’s like a document or a photo that has been run through the copier again and again – after a while it will inevitably look… Pretty Shit… As a musician, I would like for people to enjoy my songs (my babies, my art) the way I intended for them to be heard. With all the details intact.

Supporting the industry…
I realize a lot of people probably don’t think of it like this at all. Quite simply, they like the music, they want to listen to it, and they don’t wanna pay for it when the alternative is there to get it for free. Fair enough, I totally get that. Like I said, I used to do it to. Heck, I’d rather not pay for a lot of things, if the alternative was there to get it for free. Like clothes, or food, or dental appointments. I know everything about being broke, and it sucks. But what people are actually doing by not paying for the music they are downloading, is hurting the industry, and hurting the artists they like. It’s probably the same people who buy cheap knock-off t-shirts and other un-official merchandize outside the concert venues – all they want is to pay tribute to their favorite artist by wearing their name and face on a t-shirt, but the truth is the artist would probably not be particularly happy about seeing cheap copies knocking about. Most people just don’t think about the fact that supporting the copies is damaging to the artist who is trying to make a living from their art (a living which merchandize, like it or not, is a big part of).

It’s certainly not my intention to point the finger here, and I hope you understand that. My intention is simply to share my thoughts and experience on the subject, and hopefully shed some light on it. Maybe you learned something you didn’t know, maybe your view on downloading music has changed a little bit. One can always hope, anyway. I just feel like it’s important to realize that artists are working people to, and they deserve to get paid for doing their job just like you and me. Don’t you think…?

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I hope you enjoyed your read! If you did, you are probably more than averagly interested in music, and I would appreciate if you could take 1 second to answer this poll for me! =)


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Take care & keep Shining! I love you!

xxx,

Audrey

Nobody’s Wife = social outcast??

I just have to get something off my chest. Weddings are following me these days; people are planning bachelorette parties and shopping for wedding dresses all around me, and it just emphasizes what everyone who know me well already knows; that I have somewhat of an attitude towards the whole marriage thing. I just don’t get it. I have never been the kind of girl who grows up dreaming about her wedding day, picturing the wedding dress and the flowers and so on. I have actually never pictured my wedding day at all. I like weddings, but I don’t get all mooshy about them, or by seeing someone getting proposed to. The exception is this video though – HOLY CRAP!!

I’m not gonna lie – I weeped.

I used to think it was an age thing, that it’s something you are ready for at a certain age, but as the years passed and my attitude stayed the same, I realized… It’s just not me. I had so many illusions of what it meant to be 20, 25, 30 – and now I’m 26 and none of them turned out to be true. It was weird to see so many people from my year settling down, while I didn’t, and I don’t think I’ll ever get used to the thought of people my age as husbands and wives, mums and dads. And there are many of them. I never know how to react when people tell me the “big news”, but I always try my best to look excited. Because I know they are, and of course I am happy for them. I understand it is right for them. I just don’t get it, and I cannot put myself in the situation where I would ever feel the same way. But when I say it out loud, that I’m not sure if I ever want to get married, people look at me like I just grew an extra pair of eyes. And then there’s the classic (and oh so annoying) response – “I’m sure you’ll change your mind, just wait and see…” Are people such creatures of habit and routines that not wanting to get married makes me a social outcast??

Iiiiiik...!!

But why…?? I just feel like, what makes me qualified to know that I want to be with someone for the rest of my life?? I mean, I can know that I want to be with a person right now, but the rest of my life is (hopefully) a long time, and I don’t even know what I want to have for dinner tomorrow… Heck, I don’t even know what to have for dinner today. I can not tell the future. Things happen. People change. Sometimes feelings change to, shit happens, and it is never expected. I know how I feel right now, and for me, that’s enough. I’m happy. I don’t need a ring and a document to prove anything. It’s not important to me. I don’t want to call someone my husband – I am perfectly happy with having a boyfriend. An awesome one. Who loves me.  I’d rather be two separate people who choose to stay together, than one “unity” that should.


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Open minded, after all... Don’t get me wrong; I am not saying that I will NEVER ever get married, though I realize that’s what it sounds like. I’m saying that right now, I can’t picture ever getting married. But like I said, people change, shit happens, and I may also change my mind. And even though I have never pictured what my wedding will be like, I have a pretty damn clear image of what it WON’T be like, should I ever do just that. I know that:

  • For one, I will never get married in a church, or in front of a priest. No way. I don’t have a religious bone in my body, and I feel like making a promise to a god that you in fact don’t believe in, is just wrong. I don’t care that it’s tradition, or that some people will think badly of me for doing it differently. It’s MY day, and if you’re gonna frown at me for doing it MY way, then I don’t want you there ruining it. NEXT!
  • I will not get married just because it’s expected of me. “But you’ve been together for so long, isn’t it about time to settle down, get married and have kids?” No. No it’s not. If I’m perfectly happy to live my life the way I do, who the hell are you to tell me otherwise??? NEEXT!
  • I will never get married “because of the kids.” “But it is safer for the kids if mum and dad are married.” Really? Cause I would think it’s safer for the kids if mum and dad like each other enough to stay together because they want to and not because they are bound to by law…??

Humongous, gigantic, elephant sized IF… Like I said, I’m not saying that I will never get married. So just for the fun of it, let’s try to imagine what it would be like, should I ever let myself get talked into marriage… If I ever got married (and that’s a pretty big-ass IF), it wouldn’t be for any of the reasons listed above. It would be because I want a nice little ceremony to celebrate my love for someone, followed by some food and a classy but awesome party with all my friends and family present. Which, to be fair, is probably the reason why anyone gets married – I just feel like there is often so much extra bullshit attached to it. My wedding day would all be fun, laid back and us. None of that let’s-sit-down-for-a-fancy-dinner-and-pretend-to-be-all-formal bullshit – the food is often so pretentious and snobby – no… If I ever get married, I wanna eat something I actually like. A big ass Southern Hospitality style barbeque maybe, outside in the sun somewhere. Summertime Norway by the fjord, that will do. Marie, wearing a bunad, will come walking up from the fjord, playing the violin, followed by me and my dad. And my dress? I don’t really care, as long as it looks nice. But it would be awesome if it was made by someone I know. I will certainly not spend a fuckload of money on a dress that I will only wear once, oh the insanity..! And I’d wear a bikini underneath, so I could hop in the fjord for a swim once it got too hot. Moahahaha… It wouldn’t even have to be white. I think I’d actually prefer if it wasn’t. Maybe I’d go for red – I just learned from Eileen yesterday that if you wear a red dress to a wedding, it apparently means that you are the groom’s lover. And well, marrying him is a pretty good indication of the same thing.  ;-P

Just a perfect day… The  ceremony would be short and sweet, with no mention of religion, but plenty mention of love, and when it was over, the barbeque would begin right away. It would be a wonderful summer day. Priscilla Ahn would sit there by her lonesome with a guitar, playing lovely songs. People would talk, laugh and play, and eat awesome food. Then, as the sun went down, VAMP would take over the stage, and the bar would open – with the amazing drink menu from Café Sør. And we would party until tomorrow took us.

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Actually, come to think about it… This does sound nice. Very nice. It’s sounds like the perfect day. I do get why people do it. But still… If I could just do all this, have this day, without the actual getting married part, it would be just perfect… Hmm… I might just have a NON-wedding. Haha, and everyone would have to congratulate us on NOT getting married, how good’s that!?

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“Dear (your name here).

We have the pleasure of inviting you to our non-wedding on July the 25th, in celebration of our love and the life we share together right now and for as long as we both shall live want to. There will be awesome food, awesome drinks, awesome music and awesome people. 

Dress code: bright colors and a smile. Swim wear optional.” 

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Would you come? 

Cut the strings 2

Right, so my post Cut The Strings created quite the debate last week, and I have been getting a lot of different reactions on it (and been called both a hypocrite and a “music snob”), so I think a follow-up post is in its place. I may not have expressed myself as clearly as I wanted in #1. I think most of the misunderstandings have been cleared up in the comments, but since that whole discussion went on in Norwegian, and because this topic is something I care a great deal about (and never get tired of talking about), I will do a proper follow-up here. First of all, thank you to those who left comments. I love a good discussion, and besides, I would hate for people to walk around thinking that I’m a music snob and not saying it to my face. Keep leaving those comments, and if you think my blog is interesting/funny/cute/entertaining, why don’t you subscribe to it? Just put your e-mail address in the box on the top right of the page. Just remember to confirm once you get the e-mail, or it won’t work. :)

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The first thing I would like to clear up, is that it is not pop music I’m having a go at. My problem, if you can call it that, is with pop culture, and the popular music industry. There is a difference there. I am a pop musician. Obviously, I have nothing against the genre of pop, whatever that is (defining pop as a genre is very difficult, as it is so often confused with the term “popular music”, which is used for everything that is popular, be it rock, R&B or dance music). I am very, very open-minded when it comes to music, and I always have been. I can listen to almost everything, and I have my favorites in everything from folk to jazz, Hip Hop to hard rock. I love Jason Mraz. I adore Lykke Li. I think The Killers rock, and I shake my ass to Beyoncé. Any kind of music can capture me, with a catchy melody, an interesting voice, tasty chords or exciting lyrics. However, though I listen to most genres, I think all genres have good music and bad music. And yes, good and bad are definitely subjective terms – good music for me can be shite for you, and vice versa. So let me give you, for further reference, MY definitions of the terms good music and bad music.

Good music for me is music that has a soul. Music that someone has made out of the love for creating music, in the genre that is close to their heart. Songs that had a home in someone’s heart before they were even sung for the first time, and have a permanent address in the hearts of many. Songs that are someone’s true expression, and reflect the creators personality, feelings and thoughts.

Bad music, for me, is music without a soul. Music that someone has made out of the love for money, in whichever genre is popular that year (since when does Britney do dubstep??). Musical prostitution, like Eileen so rightly called it. Songs that are created on a conveyor belt, and take home in your head, despite countless notices of eviction. Songs that mean nothing, say nothing, or if they do, they are full of shit. Songs that are carried by the names of the artist singing them, and not the actual song. Songs that are created for us to naively and blindly sing along, shake our booties and close our ears for the message, or rather, the lack thereof. Songs that pump our heads full of repetitive nonsense, about money, the smell of sex, cars, jewelry and brushing your teeth with Whisky. Like I said in my post about songwriting a few weeks ago (Can you learn/teach songwriting…?);

Writing for value often takes the values away…

Now, I am aware that people consume music in different ways. Music plays different roles in different people’s lives. As for me, music plays a way bigger role in my life now than before, and I am more aware and more critical than I used to be. That’s just a natural part of growing “older and wiser”. Music can be so many things though. To some, it is just background noise, or share entertainment. To others, it is something you dive into, analyze and enjoy on a deeper level, and to some it doesn’t really play a role at all. That last one is hard for me to understand, and I wouldn’t believe it was even possible if I hadn’t, when I asked a friend a while back what music she listened to, gotten the answer; “Nah, I don’t really listen to music.” I was shocked. The point is, I get that to some, a “fat beat” is more important than lyrics. I get that. And fair enough. We are all different. Music can spread joy in so many different ways, and that is nothing less than fantastic. I am just a bit frustrated over how much CRAP people can get away with just because they are famous and popular already (and how much amazing music people are missing because they are too lazy to hunt down anything other than what they are being fed). I feel that as human beings, we have a responsibility to be aware at least, and yes, a bit critical, of what we are actually singing along to. Which values and attitudes we are supporting by the records we buy.

I’m not advocating that “Mainstream is bad”. I don’t boycott mainstream music, I do like a lot of music that is mainstream. I don’t refuse to listen to music because it’s popular – but I do refuse to listen to music just because it’s popular.

If that makes me a music snob – then so be it…

Cut the strings…

Hi guys! =)

I just did another writing session with Rossy – this week we’re writing a social comment RAP SONG!! Not gonna say too much about the song itself, but it is aimed at the ‘victims’ of Pop Culture’s “brainwash”, and encourages people to think for themselves and not just be a puppet on strings, eating up all they’re being fed through the media. “Dare to be yourself” is a line in the chorus, and it pretty much sums it up, I guess. This song (entitled “Cut The Strings” for now) will probably not get used for anything serious, but I might put it out eventually, just for a laugh.

The subject matter is serious enough though. Pop Culture has such a grip on people, especially young people, and it’s not easy to step off the trail and follow your own path. We blend in, both from the fear of being thought of as different, and because we’re to lazy to think for ourselves when the option is there to just stay passive and accept everything we’re being fed. Radio, TV, record stores, Hit Charts, we just accept what’s popular as what’s good, and what we’re meant to be listening to. The Disney Channel and similar companies keep puking up pretty youngsters, dressing them up in cool clothes and giving them their own TV-shows/films, and when they get too old, new pretty faces are there, ready to take over. The Jonas Brothers, Hannah Montana, Justin Beiber… Kids eat it up raw, they wanna be like them, dress like them, and be with them. They want their faces to cover their walls, their lunch boxes and their t-shirts, and we get a generation of uniformed, uncritical robots without a taste of their own, who are used to having everything shoved down their throats. Who are used to sit back and be entertained, and not think about what they actually stand for.

Of course, when you are that young, you might not stand for a lot at all, which is fair enough. But more often than not, you stay in that bubble, where all that matters is what you wear and how you look, and how not to stand out. Manicures, hair extensions, spray tans, expensive clothing, tons of make-up and other parts of the “Uniform” that so many people can’t leave home without, is it the grown-up version of a Hannah Montana lunch box…? It makes me wonder; Are they scared that someone might catch a glimpse of them under there…?

Some of the songs on the charts these days also puzzle me greatly; I cannot be the only one who is a tad disgusted by the thought of 14 year-old girls singing along with the words “Sex in the air, I don’t care, I love the smell of it” from Rihanna’s newest single…? Heck, I’m disgusted by anyone singing along to that to be perfectly honest, I don’t know what she’s thinking. And that’s not the only example of tastelessness on the charts – seems to me most hits these days are about one out of two things; Getting drunk or getting laid. Or both. You’d think people were smart enough to see through such cheap tricks, but it’s amazing how easily manipulated people are. Don’t even get me started on the X-Factor.

I don’t know much about the “tween” idols of this week, but I know there is one little girl I do like. She is so freakin’ cool, she’s got a great voice, she dances, but without being made sexy. She’s a kid, and they’re letting her be a kid, which is more than I can say about a lot of other child stars that have shone in the past. I am of course talking about little miss Willow Smith, daughter of Will – something which probably is the reason she is not being made into some horrible hotpants-wearing mini woman. Yet, anyway. There’s no guarantee that she will deal with the early (let’s face it, a bit too early) fame and fortune any better than anyone else, even if she does have parents with their heads on the right place, but I would say she has a better shot than most. And she is at least a healthy role model for the kids out there who are starving to be entertained.

I have rambled on a bit now, I know… I will leave you with little miss Smith’s music video. Which is quite appropriate for this post actually, since the song and the video to “Whip My Hair” is pretty much saying the exact same thing that I’m saying – dare to be yourself… You like?

Can you learn/teach Songwriting…?

“When I write songs, I personally try to avoid forcing anything onto the page. If I get stuck and start over-thinking things too much, what comes out usually isn’t 100% genuine, and in the end, the song is forgotten and never played again. Most of the songs I keep and play over and over, are ones that come fairly easily, and just sort of flow out (definitely not an every day occurrence!).”

From Priscilla Ahn’s blog post successful shopping is like writing a good song“.

Photo: Private (Audrey)

As a part of the Bachelor Degree in Music at LIPA (and every other Music University, I can imagine), we do a class called Songwriting. The name of the class is pretty self explanatory – except in a way, “Hit-writing” would be a more accurate name for it. Because that’s what we do. Write songs with simple chords, a repetitive melody, and lyrics which require no sort of brain activity on the listeners part – we shall say it all straight forward, leaving nothing to imagination and interpretation. They are catchy, catchy songs that get stuck in people’s heads, and they are made for people to sing along with, dance to, and buy – this is the mold in which they are teaching us to write.

So how do I feel about this sort of “music mass production?”, you ask.

Well… To me, the whole concept of teaching and learning Songwriting is pretty absurd, and so is the concept of writing songs with the sole purpose of selling records and making money. During my time in Shine (the R&B group I was a part of in Norway), I never liked the suggestion (which was made more than once) of working with songwriters, singing songs that someone else had written. I know that people do it, and by all means, some artists are performers more than anything, and thank f**k we’re all different, right? But for me to want to do a song that someone else has written, there has to be something about that song that speaks to me emotionally. Like if someone has managed to write the song I couldn’t write, and say what I can’t say, like Unni Wilhelmsen has a habit of doing.

When it comes to writing songs, I always put a little bit of myself in every word, and a song is a feeling I’m trying to express way before it’s a catchy bunch of words that get stuck in your head (even though, as I have always said, if it does get stuck in your head, I know I’ve done my job as a songwriter). I haven’t written the largest catalogue of songs, but every single song I have ever written, is special to me. Most of them, at least up until I started doing Songwriting as a class in Pop Dip last year, have come to me all by themselves. Triggered, off course, by a person, an event, a feeling or a random sentence, but still, I have had no control over when and where the song decided to pop into my head. Inspiration strikes at the most random of times, and when it does, you just have to go with it and write it all down with whatever you have at hand at that exact moment… A notebook, a napkin, a phone even - I have been seen singing into my phone in a corner of a club, because a melody line decided to crash the party. There are not many things that are more annoying than loosing a good hook.

My point is, songs to me have always been something I couldn’t control, couldn’t rush, couldn’t force, they came when they came, and I just had to grab them and hold on for dear life. It was the best feeling in the world when that happened (which wasn’t too often). I never sat down with a notepad and a pen and said to myself, “Right, today I shall write a song about… Coffee.” It didn’t work like that. But now…? Now, I have been forced to think differently, and I gotta tell ya, it-is-weird. Sitting down with a task at hand to write a song about unrequited love for instance, which is the kind of tasks we are being given weekly in this class, feels unbelievably bizarre to me. But surprisingly, it is working. Even though I do feel that most of the things we are being “taught” in these classes are mainly just one man’s opinions (which of course is valuable – but not any more or less so than ANOTHER man’s opinions), I am actually getting something out of it, something way more important than pointers and feedback and suggestions on how to make the chorus more catchy: A kick in the butt to write songs. I am writing again – and I am in control of it. I’m still leaving bits of myself in every word, but unlike before I can now pretty much trigger my own creativity. I realized that even if you do initiate an idea yourself, even if you’re given a topic to write about, even if you are deciding to write the song rather than the song deciding to be written, which is how it has always seemed to me, it is possible to “stay real” and write from the heart.

I guess, to answer my own questions, that no, you can’t teach songwriting. What you can do, is inspire it, trigger it and give someone a kick in the butt.

Can you learn songwriting…? Nah. You can find it though. Your creativity I mean. And sometimes, you need that kick in the butt to get started. But in the end, songwriting should be a personal thing that you share because you want to, to make someone feel something, and because you are proud of what you have created. If you make some money doing that, that’s great. But writing for value often takes the values away. Don’t you think…?

xxx

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